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How to Deal with Resentment With Your Partner

by Richard T. Dingfelder 06/09/2019

The feeling of resentment can happen in a marriage when two people no longer communicate with one another about little issues in the home. This situation can spring up doubts in them, leaving them to wonder if they are still in love with their partner. The only effective way to deal with this is by confronting the problems and finding constructive ways to bring an end to them.

  1. Confront the Problem. Facing the problem will result in a temporary conflict. Go ahead and deal with it. However, most couples dread confronting issues, for fear of arousing conflict in the home. When you feel angry because of what your spouse did, instead of resenting your partner, why not talk about it? It is better you let it out and face the temporary conflict than allow it to fester into resentment.
  2. Talk About It. Talk to your partner about how you feel. Communication in this stage matters a lot. Listen to your partner’s concerns and feelings. Talking with them will help you with a way forward. If you both feel helpless to sort it out, then seek professional help. You might need to see a marriage counselor or a therapist who will mediate between you and your partner. In a situation whereby your partner refuses to seek professional help, that shouldn’t deter you from going either. Meeting with the counselor or therapist will guide you on how to solve the issues in your marriage.
  3. Letting Go. You need to forgive your partner for whatever he or she has done. This is what helps you to move over from a resentful partner to the loving partner you were. When you have forgiven your partner, finally let go of resentment. One common trick to let go is to know that whatever happened is now in the past and as thus, should stay in the past. They shouldn’t have any negative impact on what lies ahead.
  4. Final Solution. When you have forgiven your partner and have let go of resentment, find time for physical connection. Hug, cuddle, have sex. These activities and gestures help to forget about what has happened finally. Another way to revert to lovebirds is to have more alone time. Go on a picnic. Ride on a Ferris wheel. Behave just like high school lover birds. You will be surprised how the fire of passion can burn bright once again. 

Resentment is like a match fire that can destroy a forest if left to persist. Don’t allow resentment in your relationship to escalate into something uncontrollable. Tackle it, once and for all. If you are currently going through bitterness with your partner, take the first step today – confront it now!

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Richard T. Dingfelder

Rick’s strong communication and negotiating skills, extensive marketing knowledge and professional integrity are just some of the attributes that set him apart as a REALTOR®. Rick is a driven, goal-oriented, licensed REALTOR® that will professionally manage all aspects of your transaction, understanding the importance of a real estate transaction. His clients can rely on more than 10 years of experience as well as a unique marketing plan customized to stand out from the competition. An impressive 45% referral rate as a REALTOR®, Rick credits his willingness to go the extra mile, winning attitude and drive, as just some of the elements that make him successful. Rick specializes in beach, gated, waterfront, planned, resort, retirement and new home subdivisions in his exclusive territory. Adding to his commitment and persistence, Rick loves where he lives. A recent area resident, he has been visiting southwest Florida for 30 years, crediting the beautiful weather, the friendly people and the countless recreational opportunities as a few of the reasons why it’s a great place to call home. Rick is very energetic in his community as an active church and competitive tennis league member while playing golf, fishing, scuba diving and traveling in his free time. While Rick holds CRS, GRI, ABR, SRES and ePro designations, as well as memberships in NAR, NABOR and FAR. His reputation is built on a foundation of hard work and helping his clients achieve their goals. The distinctive combination of business experience, broad marketing knowledge, and superior customer service prove that Rick personifies his commitment, as “Proactive – Experienced – Professional.”